Yesterday we got a letter from one woman. She informed us that our client deceits women. He is her husband and she even sent the paper that proves the fact. What for is all this deceit? Does he think that it wont be disclosed'?

Certainly, if a woman corresponds on her own, anyone can play games with her as long as he wants to. But if she is the client of the agency, then neither this no any other deceit is possible to continue for long, at least because of accumulated experience. A woman at the agency is not alone. She can use the experience of all women!

Which are the most spread points of deceit? The bulk of trickeries are connected in this or that way with the age: here are diseases, early pictures and understatement of years. However, lets talk about each reason separately and with examples.

1. The age
David chose Oksana and wrote her a letter, where he told that he was 48 years old. She found him a bit old, as he was a little older than her father, but he managed to conquer her heart and Oksana was resigned to his age. Just before the meeting David confessed: Oksana, I was kidding. In fact I am not 48, I am 52. But it is a little difference, isnt it? Oksana was shocked! But it was impossible to cancel the meeting when everything was ready for it

At meeting she demanded his passport and found out that David-Joker had deceived her again. He was 58. He was not only older than her father, but showed not the best side of himself. He started their story with deceit, Oksana couldnt trust him. Imagine she would have to leave the country, leave her friends and relatives for a man like this.

The result: wasted time of both, money from his part and disappointment in foreign men from hers.

Questions:
Did he really think that his deceit would not come to light? Did he think that she would forgive him?

2. Old pictures
Some men dont tell their age till last possible moment, but just send their pictures without reference to date. It is not wise behavior either. If a man is shy about his appearance now, then what result does he expect at meeting? One cant reckon just on womans politeness here. As marriage is a serious step

3. Diseases
I suppose it is the most actual subject. If you have a serious disease, when you should inform about it? If at the beginning of acquaintance, then most likely it wont continue, and if later then one of them will surely come to disappointment and probably offence. As marriage means responsibility for each other and you mustnt conceal from the partner what he will have to be responsible afterwards.

Michael cant have children and he told about it only after his chosen one said: Yes to his marriage proposal. The engagement was broken off.

Daniel warned his potential brides in his first letter that he is infected with genital herpes. Naturally no woman wants to correspond with him.

Angella concealed from her fiance that she was married once, and Bob concealed from her that he had a back trauma. Bob was a policeman and he disclosed the secret of his fiance, but forgave her. This secret would reveal itself anyway while making the fiancee visa. In their last meeting Bob decided to tell about his problem, but Angella wasnt ready to take such a load of responsibility on her shoulders. She thought long, but finally break off the engagement that seemed so romantic.

Lilyas son has a hard stage of diabetes. She tried to write about it in her first letters and in the middle of the acquaintance, but the result was always negative. Finally Lilya took her profile from the agency, as she despaired of finding a man capable to become not only her husband, but a father to her child.

Diseases are hard lot for close people and not everyone is ready to shoulder it. So there are no simple answers here. To be honest and most likely lonely, or to give yourself a chance and to hope for forgiveness of the deceit? Here everyone chooses for himself.

There is only one rule here: a woman must get to know about your disease BEFORE she officially becomes your wife. She mustnt find herself in a trap.

A single note about children. The duty of any woman is to become a mother. Probably, Western women have forgotten about it, but for Russian it is holy. If you are not going to have children, then discuss this question in details with your chosen one. Most likely, you should seek a woman with children. And dont deceive yourself with those who have no children. Even if now they tell you that they dont want any children, in one fine day the instinct will wake up in them and it is a horrible force:)

4. The process of divorce.
There are men who start dating women only beginning their divorce process. In Russia the divorce lasts for three months, while in other countries it can last for years. The first letter - wedding process takes up about a year, so imagine the disappointment of a woman when she spent the year of her life on a man, attached to him with all her heart, dreamt about new life with him, how it would hurt her to learn that: 1) he is not divorced yet, 2) they must wait for their wedding for a couple of years more, 3) new family will have to give to old one a house, car and also monthly money deductions! The outlook is not enviable

Nataliya faced just the choice like this: to wait how such relations would develop for two years more or to start a new search. Nataliya invented the third way: she was cunning to get a students visa by all most impossible ways and to leave for her fiance to wait for divorce in England. In some time the visa will expire and she will have to become illegal, as the divorce will continue a lot longer than her education. In my opinion, it is her man who is responsible for this. As everything started with his deceit!

5. Exaggerated income (reveal itself while getting a fiance visa)
First he sent his picture at jeep or yacht, with a beautiful house on the background. Then he had to stoop to look for a sponsor or even for a second sponsor to make a fiance visa. If you havent come across such a notion as sponsor, I can explain. If a mans income is not big enough, in governments opinion, then a man must look for a special man, who will bear financial responsibility for a foreign wife in case of bankruptcy of ill-stared husband. And if this sponsor also has a low income, then he needs a second one.

If a man gets a Russian wife just as an object of boast, because he has nothing else to boast of, then he will make many people unhappy: his wife, her relatives and certainly himself. Because a Russian wife requires a lot of investments: first correspondence, presents, then trip to meeting over the ocean, international telephone conversations, English classes, providing a new family with every necessary thing. And if someone doesnt even have 40-50 dollars for Membership, then this man must reject the idea to marry a Russian woman.

And in the end the following observation. We work directly with women in the office and we see how they suffer when mens deceit comes to light. You see that the negative press all over the world represent and show women like goods. So dont add humiliation to them. They just dont want to be lonely. They want love and care! So lets be gentlemen and stop solving our problems and disadvantages using women.

Best wishes Ira Chernoff