For millennia, we have been taught to both fear and to grieve death. Throughout time immemorial, we have been taught that, once we die that there is no turning back and that there is no return to those we love the most. In fact, so instilled is this practice that, from the moment we are born, we are taught that we are already dying and that, it is only a matter of time before the grim reaper will catch up with us to finally sweep us off to lands unknown. Then, as according to our belief structure, something above us will decide whether we have been good or bad in life, which will then determine our final afterlife destiny a destiny that will last for all eternity.

It is because of this common and instilled principle that all kinds of religious belief systems have emerged from which; whole societies have been built around it to then bring us, this day, our idea of normality. Thus, throughout the world, it has become normal to grieve the dead to miss them and to, somehow, struggle on without those we miss the most. Above all, we have been taught a terrible thing indeed in that, once those we love the most have died then, we shall never see them ever again.

Not True!

I am here to attest, with *absolute certainty* that, through my own researches that have spanned over 25 years concerning matters of life after death that, this is not at all true. I have found that, no matter how hard we could try yet, in truth, we could not be more wrong. What is more is that, through this research, this belief that has been instilled within us for so very long, is not only wrong but is a blight on our society that simply must be removed outright as soon as is humanly possible. I say this because, through personal experience, I have found that, far from getting over it, so many people grieve not just at the moment of their loved ones passing but that so often, this grieving is something that many never overcome at all. Instead of overcoming it, those so aggrieved often become so damaged so badly and so deeply that their own lives stop and that, from that day, their only thought is to join those they miss so much. They cease to live, they cease to remain a part of our society and, whatever dreams or aspirations they may have held prior to this enormous event, also die along with them. And, when dreams die, this brings with it a reason *not* to live at all and is replaced by a deep inner wish to die themselves. When they do finally grant their own wish to follow on after the passing of their loved ones, without realising it, they too have begun anothers slow death, anothers dream to die and anothers will to live to die with it. And so another cycle begins.

For others, even though they too want the same thing yet, somehow, they find the strength to go on and even maybe remarry one day too. But, ask them. Ask them if they have ever gotten over the death of the original one and they will all tell you that they never have but that instead, have found a way to live with it. Throughout all my research, I have yet to find even one person who can honestly say with full confidence that they dont regret the death of their close one. At best, they smile but, behind their eyes, the sadness of that passing is still there. In short, grief never leaves any of us. We simply replace it with something else.

Religion doesnt help us either. Although for so many of us, religion does have a kind of answer and a kind of respite on the road towards acceptance yet, if we are to be completely honest with ourselves, religion doesnt bring us the answers that we need so much as more questions to ponder. Usually and, for the most part, such questions are never answered but are often left in the laps of Gods a place, so we are informed, mere mortals can never comprehend. We are informed that S/He is with God now and so, does not belong to us anymore. We should let go, let them rest and be at peace. As much as we try to understand and accept this yet, in being honest again, such advice, though easy to accept for so many yet, actually doing it is another thing altogether isnt it?

They may very well be at rest. They may very well want peace. But, what about us? Who will mend *our* broken hearts in the meantime? When do WE count?

If we were all Aborigines then, ok, we may find some respite in this for, to them, Dreamtime is a most natural occurrence. However, you must know that even the best Aborigine mourn still, the passing of a loved one just the same. It is also the same with the most wizened of Indians too.

There are grief counselling groups who, for the most part that do help us over the immediate sting of the death of a loved one of course but, even then, even with the best counselling, nothing and no one can ever replace those we miss the most.

We all mourn. We all miss. We all grieve.

As it is with life, death makes equals of us all.

Grief then, is never overcome. At best, it is disguised or overlaid with something else. And yet, if we but scratch at the surface of this something else we will find that it is still there, still hurting, still scarring. Although, in and through itself, it may very well lead to something of a positive nature in that, from time to time, it may even lead to something that would not have been found had it not been for that death. But even then, if we ask those very few who have found this path that, if they could replace this positive answer with the one they miss the most, my bet is that they would do it immediately without a second thought.

Give people a choice between acidic grief and an assurance that their loved one has not gone at all but is merely in the next room, I am positive that they would relinquish this pain in a second. In knowing this about us all, I have to ask you, why then, do we continually fight, argue and debate the possibility of life after death and its sure existence? Why choose pain over possibility? Can we not share this possibility, work at it together to then, between us, find a better, far healthier alternative to a pain that never leaves us?

In writing this article for you today, I am hoping that I can help remove some of this grief, this need to miss so much and to remove, as best I can, the terrible scar on our soul that death leaves behind it. Indeed, my dearest wish of all is that, one day, science will take its head out of the sand and help prove the existence of the scientific discovery of the human soul. When this is done then, finally, we can begin to accept the truth as it really is and not have to find ourselves steeped in a religion that does not know how to cope with death and has no real answers for it, or stuck in the idea that death is the final end and that nothing exists after it. Once science has finally uncovered the greatest mystery of all then, at long last, as one body and one soul, we may be free of instilled grieving but that it will be replaced with what should have been long ago but never was namely joy.

Can this be done? Can we change a millennia of misguided habit to find the truth as it really is? Can we ever come to learn of the truth that lies just behind our own eyes; to have faith in that rather than faith of an instilled belief that, from the very beginning, was wrong from the start?

Can we undo this wrong to help us, once more, to understand that, whoever created us is far, far more than we have ever imagined? From this, can we then begin to learn to understand that, whatever God we hold dear to our hearts and souls yet, the love that pervades the universes both seen and unseen is, in actuality, far more than we could ever comprehend and that, one of the gifts that has been bestowed upon us is a life, an existence, that *never* ends at all?

We shall see.

In the meantime, as I have said, from my own researches and actual communication with the spirit world and from our worlds beyond, I can attest that I am 100% *absolutely certain* that life after death really and truly does exist. Not only this but that if we could overcome our fear of knowing and only look for ourselves, it is provable to each and every one of us and that my certainty could be yours too. I can show you how this can be done very quickly indeed whenever youre ready. But, between now and then and, starting at the very beginning, you are asking,

What will happen to me when and after I die?

Ok. If you go to part two of this article, I will tell you.

I Thank You For Your Time

Bob Daulby